seems like she has a hidden agenda and i need some advice

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    seems like she has a hidden agenda and i need some advice

    i live in jacksonville fl


    my ex and i still live together for the moment but plan on seperating. we are not married. since the day our daughter was born 3 months ago. i have been kicked to the sideline. me and my family. she will not tell me why and its getting very frustrating, to the point i feel i need to take legal action even though i do not have the money for it. she refuses to let me coparent and will not let me goto doctor visits with her. she will not tell me when she is going because ive told her that i want to go. all she tells me is that she will tell me what i need to know and thats it. she handles her medical and no one else. she will not let me bathe her or even help bathe her. she told me she wants her oldest daughter (17yrs) to help her with everything. she will not let me change her diaper or hold her til she falls asleep, and is refussing to put her on a bottle because nipple confusion is bad for baby (b.s.). breastmilk is breastmilk. everytime we argue about it all she tells me is that its about what she wants and shes doin whats best for the baby

    her and i have decided to parts ways because there is absolutly no respect from her towards me, she refuses to talk about it like an adult and there is no resoning, empathy does not seem to be in her vocabulary. alot of women that ive discussed this with to try to get some kind of understanding of it(maybe just over protective), everyone tells me that i got suckered and that she has something up her sleeve and has had it since before she got pregnant. yes, this started happening when we found out she was prego and moved in with each other. as soon as we signed the lease she turned into super b**** and started treating me and talking to me like crap. im tired of having

    ive been thinking about trying to get a consent order but was wondering if anyone might be able to tell the average cost of doing it myself as opposed to having a 3rd party do it


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    Although you may be able to piece together a consent decree for your family situation, generally, you're going to actually end up saving money by having a family law attorney draw up the consent order with you. A divorce lawyer will know the potential pitfalls that you'll want to keep in mind in order to make sure that you have your rights covered.

    Additionally, in saying this, I do want to say this. These kinds of disagreements happen. I know this is a silly thing for me to say on this forum, but I would suggest that you pray about this if you're religious. Do your best to improve yourself. Try to understand where your wife/ex is coming from. You may be able to get back together even, although I know this is a crazy thing for me to be saying. All I'm saying is that if you consider things from her perspective, even if she is wrong, and acknowledge that she has points of view that you can value even if you disagree or don't understand why she has these opinions. If you do this, you'll find an empathy for her and she'll potentially be softened and may change her mood.

    It is frustrating not to be able to be with or see your own child, and it's wrong for her to keep your baby from you. So keep with it, and it can work out.

    Anyway, back to original consent decree, I would definitely recommend having a lawyer help with it. Just tell the attorney that you want to watch costs and see what you can work out. If they know you have a budget to stay within, they're not likely going to rack up a big bill for you. They'll keep their work brief as long as you make it clear what you want from them.


 

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